We just knew there had to be more to the lyrics, and we were right.
- Lyrics. Songs also talk. A clue to the life referred to, and to the life performing, and - when we go back for a replay - to core issues in our lives out there. The startle. The recognition. On behalf of self or others, the "Yes, I know."
- Lyrics. Go find a site with the full lyrics, not just the verses Susan Boyle included in her performance. She gets us looking up the rest by singing selectively -- not just a voice, but a message. Try this one: ://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/lesmiserables/idreamedadream.htm/
- Lyrics. I dreamed a dream of time gone by. I dreamed.... He took my childhood in his stride.... Life has killed the dream I dreamed.... Not all the words fit all of us, but as a divorce lawyer, I can say I have heard the gist so often.
B. The Culture seen through the Lyrics
What aspect of the culture is reflected in those lyrics. What games get played to concentrate influence, see that a status quo is perpetuated. How does our cultural focus (obsession) with competition affect those kept out. By what techniques do we leave some with killed dreams.
1. The Game of Competition - The Women's Handicap
When men fail, they usually fail in, or fall victim to, the "competition" that men set up for themselves. They may fail because of dirty pool, but that is part of the "game." Is that so? This does not fit all cases, but most we see. Competition is the First Game, where cuts are made. FN 1
2. The Second Game. The Derailing.
Those who win, at or accept the merit of those who win the First Game, competition, then set up the Second Game. They operate on a hopeful participant who then does not even get to "competition." Or is precariously there, able to do less because of the derailing.
When women fail in, or fall victim to, something or circumstances, look to see if they had an additional "game" against them.
The Second Game.
The lyrics point up the lifetime of dichotomy, pulling at women, more than men. The two ways open, the one for my talent, the one for family, impossible choices, the self vs. the role, this but also that. The Second Game/ This even keeps many from approaching the starting gate of the First Game, the one of mere competition based on skill.
The Second Game at work: Call this Second Game "The Derailing".
- A derailing. Are women simply derailed more often.
Many would see a place for that, a tradition long-standing. But duty for men is choice and honored. Duty for women is expected and exploited. Doing duty leads to a reflection on how that duty functions for women. Which others are enabled to continue on their own paths, their own autonomy, little and big glories even,and could, because she remained caring for an aging parent. Did those others exploit, because she did not protest. Each family different.
- Are women also pulled down from the ankles by those who want them down for some gain of their own, like in Star Wars in the garbage pool and the hungry creature beneath - held there,
- Are women also held down by their own lack of resistance, a) in absorbing the expectation of being the underwire for others, and b) in accepting being exploited by those others; before they can try their own wings.
It must get out to be itself. See ://www.earthsbirthday.org/butterflies/bflys/activitykit/lunamoths.html/ This image from Annie Dillard's American Childhood, see ://www.doyletics.com/arj/amcrvw.htm/, but familiar in concept for any emerging aspect of a life.
There is but a window of time for full flight. And for only a lucky some, a second chance.
Then read about neighborhood bullies outside Susan Boyle's home, boys making her adult life miserable, over several years. Where were the neighborhood adults? Looking for that bio site with sad details, found only this approximation at ://www.sodahead.com/blog/61379/have-you-heard-therest-of-the-storyof-susan-boyle/. Google changes its search results too fast.
Explore that Second Game at work:
Move from Susan Boyle for a moment, and watch the Second Game operating on others.
Successful women, still expected, or volunteering, to support others -- even those who themselves opted out of the rough and tumble -- or otherwise did not make it, or are caught in other Systems (like jail, public assistance, addiction), with voluntary choices there. Those women still give when the needy come back again and again because they need another boost, and find that lasts for years. Derailings by chip, chip, chip. Still a choice.
They need help? Oh, of course. And we do. Ironically, willingly. Gladly, mostly. Knowing, or sensing, that equity will not help in return, no help for the volunteer. See this idea at://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maxims_of_equity/ Think back to the abused clients, who then do not pay despite good results in the circumstances, and thereby pass on the abuse.
The cycle of abuse. It is not just for families. Do it when you are not face to face. Easier.
Expected? To a degree. Of course. Abuse was their life. They now have a chance to get somewhere. Press for fees as a business? or not, as a person. Usually, bow out and move on; repay when you can. Do they. No. Asked for it? Sure. Could have left the client at the first nonpayment of bill. That is not the point.
The point is that there are two sides to doing something. that others may see as even faintly "noble" and "selfless." That selflessness is also negative, as an enabler. It enbles others to be self-ish. Be selfless anyway? That's foolish, say those dominated by the profit-mind. Could be. There are tigers in the night.
- Lyrics. "I Dreamed a Dream" - read the whole, and find the old truth, now dated, from a generation back and beyond. Recall that women were then shamed, some for life, by engaging in the mere incidents of living. For men, the activity was merely taking coup. See ://www.answers.com/topic/coup/ Next generations, do remember.
Most women would never complain about their lot: that support is expected of them, and that, in their era, they had to hang their heads for having loved.
Neither will Susan complain about her choices, the faithful caretaker, while others in the family went on with their lives. Probably. "I wouldn't have it any other way," we learn to say. We just learn to move within the set channel they bred us for.
Please be selfless, they ask, so I can be selfish.
Put up with less pay for same work, so I can take home more, says Boss and Business. Abuse by another name.
- Chick lyrics. Dreams killed. Negative thinking? No. This is acknowledgment of a negative reality, and is usually followed by gratitude, for other things, opportunities, riches unspeakable, found anyway.
Siren calls. We predict that people may applaud and get goosebumpy at a pre-pubescent boy singing genius belting about emotions he knows nothing about yet. But will anyone return to watch him again and again, and because a core has been touched? Or will they go once or twice, just for the entertainment, the rocket display. We vote for core contact, not the shock and awe of mere mastered technique, at any age. Lash yourself to the mast. See ://classics.mit.edu/Homer/odyssey.12.xii.html
Ah - this is Blackburn. See ://www.geo.ed.ac.uk/scotgaz/towns/moretpix260.html/; and //www.francisfrith.com/blackburn,west-lothian/photos/. And where is Susan?
She's gone to London to sing for the Queen.
The Fodder Site votes.
FN 1 Differential treatment of contestants in this Second Game.
Why does it rankle that Mr. Potts, a former Aspirant from a few years ago, dentally challenged, was not ridiculed as a person for his appearance.
Also the talented child. Not ridiculed as a person for his choice of display song. The judge even intervened to make his chances better, by telling the boy his choice of musical number was bad (isn't that part of the overall presentation of a talent? what they choose to do?) He was told to do another song, and he did. Applause to the boy for his presence and ability to switch gears professionally. And he excelled in his way. However, the point remains: one treatment for those of a majority, another for a derailed minority. They were respected before they began. Not so with Susan Boyle.
Does that mean that this Second Game truly is comprehensive in the culture, and involves judgmental and punitive actions of many kinds, from the neighborhood on up to the highest judging ladders. See people who finally manage to get on the ladder, are still obstructed - sometimes. Sometimes they do rise above, their single foot on the rung enough to anchor their progress. Rare. What is the role of choices, and how many are freely made, and which acquisced in or to. The person whose hold is tenuous on the ladder, they say, made their own choices in that earlier time to limit them there, so rule of tough as to a life later. Now we can stomp and better ourselves. Position, please.
Better Yourself My Foot. The true Game of Competition. See the full Game, Prospectus available for investors, at Fear of Fog, Competition Video Game.
Meme On the Loose.